Friday, December 02, 2016

Updated: Long Term Social Visit Pass 2017/2018

Hello readers!  It's the time of the year again to update how the process went.  This year, I must truly compliment the Imigresen officers.  They were super efficient although arrogance is still there (I guess it's the culture in all Government Department offices).  But if you don't want to fight with them, but just accept and said yes yes, ok ok, then it's not that bad.

If you missed my last year's application, click here.  

Compared to my experience last year, it was a breeze this year.  I am not sure if they improved because I wrote about it (hehe, being very perasan here) or someone complained or something else.

Anyway, I can see there is vast improvement compared to last year although they should still learn how to communicate.  Smile is there, but really need to talk nicely.

Because of our last year's horror, we decided that this year we won't go so early.  Because I reckon we still be spending the whole day there anyway, so might as well leave later.

We reached at around 9.10am.  No queue and took number - 2042.  The officer at the Number Counter asked if we brought baby along.  I replied no and asked if we should bring her?  Who knows whether the rules is that they need to see a physical child?  She said no, just asking.  But later I found out that if you bring a kid, they will give you a fast track number.  This is an enhancement from last year and it's definitely something new.

Within 30 minutes, our number was called.  We submitted all the relevant documents.  Officer at Counter 12 was friendly.  She complimented my girl's name.  Guess it's part of KPI to make small talk.  Kudos for that.  Then after inspecting the documents, found that the Commissioner of Oath stamp that I went and did at SS2 was invalid.  Oh no!  Not another boo boo.

So I asked her, how come every single year, I have been using the same Commissioner of Oath and yet all my applications were approved and documents accepted?  Her replied was that the previous year's officers were not aware of this and probably missed it.  OK, fair enough, human error.  I said ok, I was just curious and asked.  But she was defensive and said, if I don't want to redo, she can still submit but will get rejected.  Hmmm....I think there are nicer ways to deal with this.  I am not even being pushy and insisting her to go ahead with it.  I was willing to make a new one.  So, there's no need to be defensive.  Suddenly I found that her initial small talk and smile and good morning is all part of KPI and that she was reluctantly doing.

So I was told that they will only accept the stamp of Commissioner of Oath at Counter 2 (if it is open) or Mahkamah only.  Unfortunately for us, Counter 2 was closed for the day.  And fortunately, Mahkamah was just walking distance, about 5-10 minutes walk.

So both of us, hand-in-hand courted and dated and walked to the Mahkamah while laughing at this.  Every.Single.Year.  Without fail there will always be some new things, even though I did and follow through the same procedure from previous years.  But always something new.  Such an adventure.  Husband was enjoying it saying we hardly have such times now to walk hand-in-hand.  Either one of us will be pushing a stroller or carrying baby.

It was our first time to Mahkamah and was indeed an eye opener for me.  Felt like a tourist.  So, paid RM4 to get our stamp and it was much cheaper than the one I did earlier which I paid RM10.

Walked back and went back the same counter, no need to take a new number.  Re-submitted and this time she accepted.  Phew!  

So I started watching K-drama on my phone.  Thanks to Maxis who upgraded my data plan to 10GB, I can happily watch K-drama without worrying about data.  

Best is to sit right where you can view the automated numbering system display and put on the ear phone and watch the drama.  I find that it decreases all the noise, children crying, people talking loudly, and so on and just can hear the number called.  Every now and then I just need to look up from my screen to the display to check my number.

By 11am, our number was called again.  This time to pay.  I was disappointed because we paid the same amount last year.  Meaning that the duration is the same again, i.e 1 year.

By 11.30am, our number was called again.  This time is to collect the passport and I noticed that the work endorsement is not there.  So I asked the officer at the Counter 1 that "I ada buat itu work endorsement tapi tak ada dalam pasport".  Again he was defensive and replied, "Bukan you buat, itu kerja Imigresen.  You mohon sahaja."  OK, OK I get it.  My BM is not 100% accurate.  So, forgive me, Tuan.

By 12pm, our number was called again and this time to collect the passport with the work endorsement.  Wow, this year we were able to leave before lunch!!!  That's a vast improvement from last year.

So, I must really compliment the officers at Jabatan Imigresen Malaysia, Putrajaya.  Thank you for being so efficient and please do keep up with the good work.  My 2 cents, you don't have to enforce the "You must smile at customer" kind of service, but do have a better way to talk.  Being strict is one thing.  Being arrogant is another.  Know the difference.  And there is definitely no need to be defensive.  I understand some customers are really tough to deal with, but I am not one of those.

So, in the end, we are still on 1 year visa and 1 year work endorsement.  No changes made.  So, that rumour saying that I need to have a kid and live here for 5 years is not true at all.  Now people are telling me that if you live here for 10 years, then only they will start giving 5 years.  So, looks like I have to wait for another 5 years and meantime have to continue this annually.  But if the process is this fast, I don't mind doing this annually.  Really.

And next year, here's my plan.  No need to take leave to just go and get the forms.  Truly not necessary.  You can collect the forms and fill it up and do the commissioner of oath all on the same day.  Just make sure you bring along photos and the stamped contract.  And if I want to get a fast track, I just bring my kid along.  But without also that fast, so it's ok.  Kid can stay at home.

This year experience was so much more pleasant.

Saturday, October 22, 2016

Love is the only answer

I have not written for a long time and as I was lying down on my bed, nursing my little one,  I was browsing through Facebook.

It's hard to go through the news feed without news of animals abuse,  child abuse,  no human rights, racialism,  war,  corruption,  suicides,  accidents, rapes, and so on and so forth.

As I caressed my little one's forehead and feel cool breeze emiting through her Sahasrara,  I feel worried for her.

Since becoming a mother,  stories about children getting hurt really disturbed me.   And it's so scary that it is happening so much more frequent.   Maybe because of social media,  we get the news instantly compared to the times before Facebook was born.  So we get to hear news of parent left baby in car and suffocated and died, or the parent who accidentally sat on the toddler and killed him instantly or fell off from high place, or legs got stuck in elevator and so on.

We used to only see this kind of things in horror movies.   But now we hear so many real life,  true stories.   It just makes me wonder,  do we have to live in fear all the time?

I am worried that the fear is passed on to the children.   Like when we go shopping mall,  we are constantly keeping an eye on them and does not allow any strangers to go near them for fear of being kidnapped as there are countless kids kidnapped,  not for money,  but for other horrible things.   Then as we go up the elevator,  we are worried if the kid's legs will get stuck in the elevator or the incident where the landing was opened and the parent fell and killed,  or the parent who was carrying the kid on the shoulders and tilted over and the kid fell one floor down.   Horrors after horrors in our day to day life.

We have to constantly keep our kids buckled in the stroller or holding our hands or keeping near us.

I have become an overprotective mom.

Baby has a weak anahat thanks to me.   She has separation anxiety.   She is scared of the pressure of suddenly dropping like in the lift.  She is scared when in the water swimming with me.

I was told that the more flustered I am,  the worse she becomes as she picks up from me.

Being a mother is very overwhelming sometimes.   As much as I want to keep her safe and protected,  there are so many things that are beyond my control and I am very scared of those.  And because of all this,  I get so frustrated and angry at the world.  Angry at the politicians for not making the country a better place for the future,  instead only thinking of their pockets.  Angry at the babysitter for not listening to instructions.  

I have already tried my very best to be detached but still not good enough.   Like when I go to work,  I have to leave her and believe the babysitter would do their best.   I have to trust the babysitter.  And I gave permission for babysitter to take her out to shopping malls and so on.

The only reason I could do that is because I believe Shri Mataji is watching over baby.   Before I leave her behind,  I would raise her kundalini and bandhan.   I would leave the house with the belief that baby is in good hands.   When back home,  I would try to make her sit with us for meditation.   Bring her to collective and pujas.   Let her mix more with Sahaja Yogis.   Clear her more and love her.  Her constant cool breeze on her Sahasrara reassured me that the Divine is with her all the time.   I felt much better.

Then I read experiences of yogis who were children when they came into sahaj and how they struggled to live life as a Sahaja Yogi and at the same time as a human being in this chaotic world.   Some said as Sahaja Yogi parents we should not imposed too much of Sahaja Yoga ideology to them.   We should let the children decide.   But main thing is we should tell the children to love Shri Mataji and have that connection with Her.

Maybe I think too much.   As much as I tried to be a good mom,  I am not perfect.  

What I think I can do is to show baby that she is very much love.   Teach her to love herself and others.   Let her be daring and do things.   Teach her morality and dharma and maryadas.   Guide her to be a good Sahaja Yogi but not imposed too rigidly.  I have no doubts baby has a relationship with Shri Mataji already.   She knows who Shri Mataji is.   She likes to touch Shri Mataji's photo.   And I believe Shri Mataji has communicated with her in many ways unknown to me.

I think I have to read Kavach of the Devi constantly.   I feel so scared in my heart,  full of fears and worries and doubts. 

I pray that I can be as compassionate and loving like how Shri Mataji is to us.   I know I can't be a mother like Shri Mataji Herself but I hope I can imbibe Her ways and methods.   I also pray for Shri Mataji to always keep us in Her protection and guide us away from all negativity.   Because God is Love and Love is the only answer to all the absurdity in the world.

Thursday, October 13, 2016

Benefit for Selangor citizens

I am sure you have read about the benefits for citizens of Selangor.  Here you go again.

Recently, I did No.1 for baby.  It's so easy to do now.  Here's how to do it:

Step 1 - Go to TAWAS website.  
The website is not that user friendly though.

Step 2 - Click Pendaftaran Baru.  You will be directed to a new page.  Click on Pendaftaran Baru again.  Then click Setuju.

Step 3-  Fill in your baby's MyKid and parents MyKad.  And fill up all the details as requested.

Step 4 - Click submit.

Step 5 - Email to the soft copy of the MyKid, birth certificate and parent's MyKad.

And you are done!  It's so simple.  The approval is also very fast.  If you want to know whether it's approved or not, go to the TAWAS website and click on Semakan Permohonan.

Once it is approved, go to Yayasan Warisan Anak Selangor (YAWAS) at Aras 5, Kompleks Belia Dan Kebudayaan Negeri Selangor, Lot 4, Jalan Platinum 7/52, Seksyen 7, Persiaran Kayangan, 40000 Shah Alam, Selangor to collect the card and also the FD certificate that shows RM1,500, which can only be collected when baby is 18 years old.  I guess there might be interest.  Hopefully.

That's it.  Very simple.

Tuesday, August 30, 2016

Raksha Bandhan - Making rakhis

I have always looked forward to Raksha Bandhan, every single year.  Maybe because the gifts are attractive.

Every year, we have been making simple rakhis, in huge amount, to be distributed out to the collective.  This year, I learned to make rakhi the Indian way.  It's really simple to do but takes more time than the simple string that we have been making year after year.

I used DMC embroidery threads that is from my abandoned cross stitch project.  Sorry, but I don't have the step-by-step method in pictures.

Embroidery thread - normal colour
Embroidery thread - silver or gold
Glue gun
Beads / little flowers for decoration
A partner to help you (optional but better)

1. To make the centerpiece, first, take out 1 gold or silver embroidery thread and separate it from the main bundle.  The whole bundle consist of 6 threads.  Just take 1 out or the 6.

2. Take a fork and wrap the coloured embroidery thread (the full bundle with 6 threads) and 1 gold or silver thread that you have taken out in Step 1 around the top of the fork (the part where you pick up food with) many times, horizontally.  You need to make sure it is thick enough to make it fluffy.  Otherwise it would look scattered.

3. Cut the threads.  In between the fork's teeth, tie up the threads in the middle.  Make sure it is tight.  Remove from fork and cut the edges.  Make sure there is no close threads.

4.  Spread open the threads to make it into a circle.  And trim the edges to make it round.

5. To make the string, take 2 different colour thread and cut 2 piece each at the same length.  Make sure it is long enough to tie around the wrist.

6. Tie a knot at one end.  Separate the threads.  Up to you how you want the design to be.  You can take one colour while your partner take another colour of 2 piece of thread each.  Both of you pull it tight and hold the end.  And twist clockwise.

7.  Once it is tightly twisted, one person hold the knotted end, and another person hold the open end.  Make sure none of you let go or else you would have to repeat the whole thing again as it will get untwisted.

8.  Once both of you are ready, then the one holding the knotted end let go.  Now you will get a nicely twisted string.  Tie the knot at the other end to close it.  Your string is ready.

9. Use glue gun and stick some beads or flowers on the centerpiece.  Then use the glue gun to stick it on the string.  My mom was helping me with the glue gun and she didn't use that to stick the centerpiece to the string.  Instead, she just tied the string around the centerpiece.  That created a gap as you can see in the first picture.  Instead of a nice round centerpiece, you see 2 gaps.  Not very nice.

10.  Your rakhi is ready.

I know my instructions may not be so clear.  Next time I would post some pictures.

Friday, August 05, 2016

Hungry Ghost Festival

Every year, the Chinese would celebrate the Hungry Ghost Festival, which falls on the 14th day of the 7th month of the lunar calendar.  What they do is offer food and do some prayers to appease the ghosts in the hope that these negativities doesn't disturb the living.  

According to the Chinese beliefs, the Hell gates open on the 1st day of the 7th lunar month.  For the whole of the 7th lunar month, prayers and food and nowadays performances would be offered to appease them.

Nowadays, the organisers would set up a huge tent, a performing stage, tables and chairs and a huge, gigantic altar and organise some dinner or sorts in several housing estates to do this prayer.  On the 1st day of the 7th lunar month, the performers would start performing but to an empty audience.  The living would keep away because that day is set for the ghosts to watch.  Sounds eery, no?

What I cannot comprehend is the way the performers are dressed and the music when they performed.  It's way too sexy and the music would be blasting away, so loud until I can hear it while footsoaking although it's located like 5km away.

And being in Sahaj, I cannot understand the need of the festival.  Why are we praying to them instead of God?  The more powers we give them, the more powerful they become, no?

Believe it or not, these negativity are very strong during these times.  Whether they are appeased or not, they are there because we give them even more power.  And they come and affect us.  Not like possession or sorts but they affect our emotions, moods and our beings.  

Yesterday, a few colleagues in the same department fought with each other, not physically but with words.  Colleagues whom have been eating lunch together for months.  Colleagues whom have been working together for years.  And words were thrown, anger, phone slamming, shouting, you name it.

To me, it's the work of bhoots.  Negativity affecting their moods and mind.  But they don't know.  Now ties are severed and communication is breaking down.  Is it worth it?  All because of some ego play?  And the bhoots probably having a wild time playing and watching this unfold.

On the same day, as I reached home, I can sense something is not right in the air.  As I walked into the house, my head was pounding away, a sign that catches are there.  Sure enough, everyone was in a bad mood and felt as though a time bomb is going to explode anytime.

As yogis, I feel we need to be aware of such things and keep our attention on Sahasrara to prevent these bhoots from entering us or disturbing us.  Because non-yogis are not aware.  

Why anger spreads?  Why is people becoming more unhappy?  Depressed?  It's all related.  It may not be the negativity of the Hungry Ghost Festival.  But negativity is everywhere and affecting everyone.

As yogis, we need to keep the situation under control.  I almost lost it when I entered my house and the bad mood started to affect me as well and baby was screaming away and everyone was walking on eggshells.  Then just as quickly my mood was going to burst, I managed to catch hold of my mouth before it open and start purging out words that cannot be taken back.  I took a deep breath and recognised that I didn't manage to do a proper morning meditation that day.  Then I start to become aware that my husband who has been in the house the whole day, has been affected or 'infected' by the negativity.  He looks worn out and was also on the verge of bursting.  

I did a quick pray in my heart and hope I can be the Shakti to keep the peace at home.  And slowly can feel the mood settling.  Baby slept off after a crying fit and the whole household became calmer.  They began to talk with respect and not with sarcasm.  

And quietly when it's only me and my husband alone, I asked him what happened.  I told him what happened at work and I feel the same thing is happening at home.  Then I heard his side of the story and became aware that he is being put in a tight situation and told him we must clear ourselves and shoebeat.  Probably have to start matka pot soon too before things get out of hand.  Looking after a baby can be difficult and burnout.  And now that she has started crawling and holding things to stand up, it gets even tougher.  When our energy level is low, if we are not careful, negativity would find a way to attack us.

Non-yogis won't know what to do but as yogis, we are responsible for our vibrations.  When our vibrations improve, so does the surrounding and the ambiance would also feel better.  It's not easy to keep our attention on Sahasrara all the time or to be alert and aware and witness and not react.  I tried these few things.

1. Bring a lime to work everyday.
2. Be sure to meditate every morning, even if it is only for 5 minutes.  Proper meditation with thoughtless awareness.
3. Listen to bhajans at work.  My company allow us to use the earphones while working.
4. Listen to Shri Mataji's talk at work.  This is a little more challenging because you want to pay 100% attention on Her speech and not just by-the-way listening.  
5. Read Shri Mataji's transcript online.  This is something that I would do if I don't have much work to do.  Reading the transcript takes time and can take about 1 hour to 2.
6. Watch Shri Mataji's speech on YouTube.  I would watch do when I have time during lunch break or during one of my pumping session.

Doing these help to keep my mind in peace and understand and recognise the moods and most important is stop myself from reacting.

Hopefully my vibrations can help to ease the hostility in the office.

Friday, July 01, 2016

The Birthday Month - Birthday Treats

I love July.  Especially 28th July.  Because that's my birthday!!!

Every year, I will be looking out for treats and rewards given out by restaurants or any other enterprises to see what I get.  So far, 2 enterprises have emailed me.

1. Golden Screen Cinema (GSC)
Get 2 FREE movie tickets only from 1st July to 31st July.  Selected movies only and marked with * in the website.  

Previous years I have utilised this nice treat with husband.  But this year, I have to forgo as I can't bring baby along.  Sigh.  

Anyway, I checked their website and found only 1 movie that I want to watch, which is upcoming.  It's "Alice in Wonderland".  However, I doubt that it will be mark * as usually movies that are already out for long or movies that are going to be taken out are marked.

2. Sunway PALS
I only use this card for parking.  It's like Touch n Go.  As for the rewards, it's not that attractive.  The points are too expensive.

But for birthday, they are offering Buy 1 Free 1 ticket at Lost World of Tambun.  Since I went there before, I don't think I would go.  It's not as attractive as Sunway Lagoon, if you ask me.

Too bad they don't offer the same for Sunway Lagoon.  Instead they offered Free Double Tube for their water rides.'s not that expensive if I can remember.  So, this is nothing big, really.

Another offer is 50% discount for Sunway Pyramid Ice.  I have never done ice skating and have no interest in it.  So no go.

Last one is Upgrade to the next category room when I booked at Lost World Hotel, Ipoh.  Again, not that great an offer.

IN previous years, Shogun Japanese Restaurant used to have very good offers.  They allowed birthday boy/girl to eat buffet for free.  The conditions were also not that many.  But I just checked and they only allowed free 3 days before and 3 days after the actual birthday.  On top of that, the birthday boy/girl must be accompanied by 3 paying guests.  Hmm...So I can't dine alone with husband.

Then there are many other offers too, which if you Google you will find.  But am not interested in them.  Either too far, too expensive, too many conditions.

How nice if companies like AirAsia gives out free air tickets on birthday month?  Or the banks give out rebates on birthday month?  Or higher interest on birthday month?  Or hotel give out free rooms on birthday month?  Or Baskin Robbins giving out free ice cream?  Or something like that.

Nah...not gonna happen.  What's gonna happen this year is I will be going to the TCE Baby Fair which is happening from 28 - 31 July at Mid Valley.  

Tuesday, June 07, 2016

Being a new mother

Oh wow.  Since I have kinda neglect this blog, the readers have also left.  I might try to revive this blog when I feel better.

Lately, I feel things are not going my way.  And no matter how much I pray, I still feel nothing is moving.  In fact, it's just one obstacle after another.  Yesterday, I have a spiritual conversation with my other half and at the same time a WhatsApp message of Shri Mataji's extract came.  How apt it was.

The reason why I don't update this blog so often now is because since I delivered my girl, I have been going through challenges after challenges.  Before one ends, another arises and it's continuous.  Personal challenges, work challenges, spiritual, emotional, mental, physical, financial, family, you name it.  All came at once.  All at the same time.

I have decided that this blog is only about my spiritual life and being positive.  If I am in a bad mood or not in balance, I will refrain myself from writing on this blog.  Hence, my disappearance for the past few months.

Being a new mother is never easy.  Having to deal with a newborn is difficult.  Waking up in the middle of the night, just to change diaper is not something new now.  From the beginning of my baby's life, I didn't have an easy time.  I guess I am not alone.  

Not only have I neglected my spiritual blog, I have also neglected my spiritual self.  So much so that everyday, I find myself giving excuses if I didn't have time to meditate or if I cut short my clearing.  And each time, the excuses were baby related.

I want to give the very best for baby.  So day after day, I make sure I do everything right for her.  Breastfeeding, vaccination, doctor's checkup, etc, I made sure I follow through.  Breastfeeding was the biggest challenge, which I am glad to say now things have ease and better.

My entire attention and focus is now mainly on baby.  I would love to write everything about my new life here, but then this blog will be converted into a motherhood blog.  I am still trying to find my feet in motherhood and Sahaja Yoga.

I get extremely nervous when my baby cries.  But now I began to identify her cries.  First she will give warning.  If still no sign of attention given to her, her cries will be louder and finally the loudest.  Which is why, I am afraid to go anywhere with her, even to collective.

I became so out of balance and then I finally realised that I have lost the connection with Shri Mataji.  I haven't been meditating well and not clearing properly either.  At the same time, I kept on wondering if Shri Mataji has forgotten about me.  She hasn't but I think I have neglected my connection with Her.

Perhaps because of that nothing seems to be working out for you, my other half said.  Yes, I think this is why.

I forgot that to be balance, I need to focus on meditation and surrender the rest to the Divine.  Instead, I focus on baby too much until I lost the feeling of joy and find it a burden and hassle.  I don't know how to enjoy life and baby.  As much as I wanted to provide and give the best to her, I hardly spend time with her because I was too much focusing on how to breastfeed and kept on pumping away.

Every time I read Shri Mataji's excerpt on motherhood or about taking care of small babies, it's usually for mothers who doesn't work.  So I find myself hard to relate to my new life and Sahaja Yoga.  I tried to find the connection, but couldn't and ended up blaming myself for failing to be a Sahaja Yogi.

In the end, I became so frustrated, trying to stand on my feet again, trying to be one with the Divine and trying to find peace in my new life.  I began to blame everyone around me.

Now as I write, I begin to see the root to my problems.  My other half has been supportive of everything I do right from the beginning, but I couldn't enjoy it.  I keep thinking I am doing things for baby but I think in the end, it's just my ego.

OK, no more excuses.  Time to get back to balance again.  


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