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My search for a gold mangalsutra which has Maharashtrian style has come to an end. Thanks to Joyalukkas, I am now very happy and satisfied. And so I would like to dedicate this post to Joyalukkas and thank them for the beautiful mangalsutra. Joyalukkas did not pay me anything for this post. I am doing it willingly and gratefully.
As mentioned in my previous post, I have been looking for a new mangalsutra to replace the old one. Usually, Indians who are married will get the one and only mangalsutra during the wedding ceremony, presented by the bridegroom to the bride. As per the Maharashtrian ceremony and custom, the design of the vati is as per the family tradition. It will usually be in gold but nowadays richer families will make it in diamond as well.
Yoginis who are married in Sahaj will get a mangalsutra during the Sahaj wedding ceremony. This mangalsutra is usually gold colored and made of metal. It is not gold plated.
I have sentimental values with the original mangalsutra. When my husband tied it around me, I felt cool vibrations circling me from Mooladhara to Sahasrara. It was very memorable.
Overtime, the gold color disappeared and it looked like a dull metal. Yoginis who are married to Indian yogis will get a new mangalsutra presented by their husbands. Overseas yoginis will be gifted with a new mangalsutra by their husbands who either asked someone to buy for them on a trip to India or to go India themselves to source it out.
Since 2 years of marriage, my mangalsutra was falling apart, in terms of the stones. Some yoginis get mangalsutras without stones and was still in very good condition after years. I was reluctant to change to a new one but the original was getting duller by the day until others asked me why is it in this color. You see, to Indian yogis, mangalsutra is very sacred. And it should be in gold and part of it was because it represents the Lakshmi and mangalsutra should not look worn out.
So my search for a new gold mangalsutra began. I asked all the yoginis in Malaysia where they get their gold mangalsutra. One told me she has it customized by one of a goldsmith who were once a yogi, but left. Others told me that they got it in India. Some said they don't know where but their husbands got it for them from India. One just bought the gold black beads chain and put Shri Mataji's pendant as replacement for the vatis.
I started my search and research on a new gold mangalsutra as both my husband and I have no clue of how it should be.
I found from this blog on the significance of the mangalsutra and thought it was very meaningful. Please read with discretion and vibrations.
From there I found what the black beads meant, what the double vati meant, why there are 4 flower petals above each cup, why the length is such and such and so on.
I am a very traditional person. I would prefer the old ways and not new, no matter how nicer or better the ways are. I always think that there is a reason for the old to be in that way and it's always better to revert back to traditional methods.
As yogis, we do have to understand everything with discretion and not blind knowledge. But if the knowledge is meaningful and vibrations are cool, then I will accept it.
End of my research, I have decided to get a very traditional looking gold mangalsutra.
Black beads: All the way and no gold beads in between. The reason why I opted for this design was because Shri Mataji's mangalsutra is also the same type. According to the blog, you should have some gold beads in between the black to counter off the negative energy emitted. Not sure what it meant but just follow how Shri Adi Shakti wears Hers.
Double vati: As per the blog, the 2 cups should have no design on it. I wanted a plain one too, but it's not fashionable and so no demand. Since I saw Shri Mataji's mangalsutra is also with design and decorated with diamonds, I thought I will go with design.
|Shri Mataji's mangalsutra|
Four flower petals: As per the blog, above each cup should have 4 flower petals. It supposed to associate with Action energy. Don't really know what that means. The original mangalsutra one has 6 petals. I will just go with the flow.
Length: According to the blog, the length should cover your anahat. Original one is also long and Shri Mataji's one is also long. I would go with the longer length. Saw some sisters wearing a shorter one though.
Now that I have completed the research, I have come down with 4 options:
Option 1: Buy in India (Pros: Lots of choices, Cons: Pricey due to air ticket and other costs)
Option 2: Re-make my original one by converting the metal into gold and customize the pendant (Pros: Can retain the original black beads and get my own design, Cons: Pricey)
Option 3: Buy in Malaysia (Pros: Cheaper, Cons: Difficult to find)
Option 4: Buy online (Pros: At a mouse click, Cons: Can it be trusted?)
My pursuit for a new gold mangalsutra began 2 years ago. From the visits to many to the local Indian goldsmiths and jewellery shops in Brickfields, found that the black beads chain can be easily obtainable at reasonable prices but they don't carry the Maharashtrian pendant.
So I asked some yogis who were going to India to get for me, by telling them how exactly I wanted it. I was reluctant to do this at first, thinking how much I am troubling the others. Eventually, one yogi sister came back with a quotation, RM4k+. I guess the design is very good and top-notch and thick gold and so on. I didn't pursue further as I feel the price was very steep and the design may not be what I like.
Then dropped the search for a year until recently I re-ignited the fire and the search continues. This time I am serious in getting one and prayed hard to Shri Mataji.
A yogi aunty told me to get it customize at her goldsmith. First visit, they were closed. Second visit, found that they can't do it. This is a chinese goldsmith and they said the gold in between the black beads is very difficult to make and Indian goldsmiths are better in that. Besides that when they looked at the pendant, they said they didn't have the mold to do it. They recommended me to go Little India Klang and Little India KL.
On the day before the visit to Little India KL, coincidentally a yogi sister told me that she just came back from there and there were lots of mangalsutra found. I was excited. But she did warned me that the pendant may not be found.
The day came and I was supposed to go back early but was delayed. So, the whole journey was delayed by 1.5 hours. But we managed to get to Little India KL by LRT and found lots of goldsmiths and jewelry shops. And we visited each and every goldsmiths there. Again, found the black beads but not the pendant. Disappointed.
Then it was getting late and we decided to have dinner before continuing our search. During dinner I did a bandhan and prayed. I was desperate and also don't want to walk any further.
Walking distance from the food stalls were Joyalukkas. It is a huge shop but not many shoppers compared to the other jewelry shops which were packed. I figured probably the prices here are not ideal.
We walked in, enquired and immediately got a response. Imagine the look on my face when Mr Sajeesh told me that they have the pendant that I wanted and showed me few designs. I immediately fell in love with the gold one. Enquire the price and ok, reasonably priced.
But we have one more shop to go which is also another huge jewelry shop and decided to check it out before I decide. They too have the pendant, but it's a set with the chain and the design is not exactly what I am looking for. And it's the one and only set. So, we turned back to Joyalukkas.
Negotiated and all that and found that it was already 8.15pm and they were about to close. Asked if they can combine the chain and the pendant for me and said they can't do it today as they were closing. Told me to come back the next day. Disappointed that I didn't get my hands on it but figured there must be a reason behind it as it was getting dark and late. Not safe to be out in the streets of KL at that time with gold in hand.
We went back the next day at 10am when they opened. While waiting for Mr Sajeesh, found more choices of the pendant. In fact, they have like 5-6 choices in gold. Was excited and told him to show me all of them. In the end, I settled for the one I saw the day before and that's when the search for mangalsutra ends.
The prices were reasonable. I didn't check how much was gold prices, whether it's low or high. I didn't bargain much.
And ta da:
Happy and satisfied and feels so complete. We did a simple puja and ceremony to re-tie the mangalsutra and vibrations are very good now.
The new mangalsutra is much smaller and cuter than the original one. Suits my personality.